I love teaching authoritative parenting.
Above is a very real response from a dad to my lesson on the handling window between getting home from school/work and dinnertime.
Authoritative parenting is both high in warmth and high in boundaries. It has by far the best research on short-term outcomes, such as getting through difficult day-to-day moments and seasons, as well as long-term outcomes related to our children’s development and our relationship with them as they grow.
Authoritative parenting is not as easy as authoritarian and permissive parenting.
Authoritarian and permissive parenting are really based on avoiding discomfort.
In authoritarian parenting, you use your big voice and threats and coercion and guilt and shame to get compliance. In doing so, parents try to avoid the discomfort that we face when our children don’t do as we prefer immediately. It is high in demands and low in warmth/connection.
In permissive parenting, warmth is present, but limits and boundaries are lacking. Permissive parenting is a response aimed at avoiding the discomfort the child might face if a parent sets a boundary or expectation. It is high in warmth but low in boundaries and limits.
Authoritative parenting, by contrast, takes the good side of both…. it is high in warmth and connection and also high in boundaries and expectations.
➡️ Want to see the video the lesson prompted that dad’s reply? ⤵️
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